If you feel that your relationship is in serious trouble and you can see the possibility of separation from where you are right now, there is something you can do about it. Even if you have seen couple counselors already, or if one of you has already decided it’s over but the other wants to stay together, I can help you with a new approach developed for these most difficult situations. This approach is also recommended if you have already seen marriage counsellors before, if one or both of you need more support, if one or both are struggling with addiction or if there has been a low level of physicality in your conflict.
In this approach I work closely with a colleague who is also a psychologist with many years of experience with children, couples and families. We create a safe and supportive forum for the difficult conversations.
In this process we each have a primary relationship with one person in the couple and a generally supportive relationship with the other. We work with ‘our’ client in one-on-one meetings until everyone feels ready for a joint meeting where all 4 of us meet together. The psychologists direct the meeting and structure things to support both of you to describe your experiences safely. We can take as many breaks as necessary. The goal is to have the best possible conversation.
All this method involves two psychologists, in my experience, we get things done more quickly and need fewer meetings to resolve long standing issues.
